A lot can told about the knowledge of your self-worth or lack thereof simply by the relationships and people you are involved with in your life. Inspect your relationships and circle and evaluate. Are they focused, determined, loyal, dependable, incorruptible, movers, shakers, inspiring, motivators, and world changers? If not, then more than likely you don’t esteem yourself to be either. I mean, let’s just be real. People with millionaire mindsets do not hang out with and befriend people with poverty mindset. People who are motivated do not hang out with and befriend lazy people. Fact is fact. Who and what are you around?
Many times we get into relationships both intimate and friend, based upon how much we value and see in ourselves. Our relationships are a mere reflection of how we view and feel about ourselves. Typically, people who do not have the full revelation of their value and worth in the eyes of God will attract and be attracted to relationships that will not add value to their life. Rather to relationships that will devalue their life.
People that are in abusive relationships whether it be physical, emotional, or mental have little to no knowledge of self-worth. This is true of both the abuser and the victim. The abuser doesn’t know that they are worth more than abusing someone and the victim doesn’t know that they are worth more than to receive the abuse. In fact, the abuser maybe in a cycle of abuse where they were once abused.
If you find yourself developing new relationships the same or similar to past ones, you are in a cycle. TIME OUT!! Don’t be so quick to jump into a new relationship until you’ve taken some time for yourself, some time to get to know yourself outside of being with someone else, and sometime to love and allow God to love on you. You cannot properly love someone less you know how to properly love yourself. As you begin to love and value yourself, then will you see a change in your relationships and the people you are involved with and allow in your life. As you learn your worth, you’ll be able to establish standards and create healthy boundaries. Why, because you know your worth! We are ALL God’s creation and He says that we are His masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10) and are precious, honored and loved by him (Isaiah 43:4). There is no one that is more special to Him. Listen! Not everyone is worthy of you and your time.